By: Dèlia Rubio
Some conversations hit differently. They don’t just entertain you for an hour, they linger
in your mind, making you rethink how you navigate life. That’s exactly what happened
when I listened to Mel Robbins on Therapuss with Jake Shane. It wasn’t just another
interview; it was a mix of raw vulnerability, sharp wisdom, and laugh-out-loud moments
that left me with actual tools for improving my mindset.
Robbins, a bestselling author and podcast host, is known for her no-nonsense approach
to confidence, anxiety, and personal growth. Her 5-Second Rule has helped millions
break through self-doubt and take action.
From reframing anxiety to embracing the Let Them Theory, here’s everything I learned
and how I’m putting it into action.
The Let Them Theory: Letting Go of External Validation
One of the most powerful takeaways from this episode was Mel’s Let Them Theory, a
simple yet transformative idea. It’s about releasing the exhausting need to control how
others perceive you. People will misunderstand you. Some will judge you. Others won’t
support you. And that’s fine. Instead of bending yourself to fit into spaces where you
don’t belong, just... let them think what they want.
How I’m applying it:
Every time I catch myself overanalyzing someone’s reaction or
trying too hard to be liked, I pause and remind myself: Let them. My energy is better
spent focusing on the people and places that truly align with me.
Anxiety: A Natural Response, Not an Enemy
Mel also redefined anxiety in a way that made me see it through a completely different
lens. She explained that anxiety is just our brain’s response to uncertainty, it doesn’t
necessarily mean something bad is about to happen. It’s our mind trying to protect us,
even if it sometimes overreacts.
How I’m applying it:
Instead of letting anxiety spiral into worst-case scenarios, I now
acknowledge it for what it is: a signal. A reminder that I’m stepping into something
unfamiliar. And most importantly, a feeling that I can manage rather than fear.
The Power of Perspective: Changing the Narrative
Another major moment was when they discussed the power of shifting your internal
dialogue. Our thoughts shape our reality, yet so many of us let self-doubt and negative
stories define us. Instead of saying, “I’m not good enough,” what if we started saying, “I
am learning and growing”? It’s a small shift, but it changes everything.
How I’m applying it:
Every time I catch myself in a cycle of self-criticism, I reframe the
thought. Instead of “I’ll never get this right,” I tell myself “I’m figuring it out.” It’s a
practice, but it’s helping.
Vulnerability and Relationships: Owning Your Truth
They also touched on the fear of being vulnerable, especially in relationships. So many
of us struggle with showing our true selves because we’re terrified of rejection. But Mel
made it clear: real connections can only happen when we’re brave enough to be seen
as we are.
How I’m applying it:
Instead of hiding my insecurities, I’m making an effort to express
them. To have deeper conversations. To allow myself to be understood rather than
assuming people won’t get it. The truth is, the right people will get it. And the ones who
don’t? Let them.
Small Actions, Big Impact
One of my favorite takeaways was the idea that small daily habits can shape our
self-perception in profound ways. Mel talked about something as simple as giving
yourself a high-five in the mirror, because how we treat ourselves matters just as much
as how we think about ourselves.
How I’m applying it:
I’m making a conscious effort to celebrate my small wins. To show
up for myself. To be my own biggest supporter, even in the tiniest ways. Because at the
end of the day, our relationship with ourselves is the foundation for everything else.
The Biggest Lesson: It’s an Inside Job
At the core of it all, this conversation wasn’t about changing who we are, it was about
returning to who we’ve always been beneath the noise of expectations and self-doubt.
It’s about unlearning the need for validation, embracing discomfort, and owning your
worth without waiting for permission.
We spend so much time searching for the right advice, the right people, and the right
moment when in reality, everything we need is already within us. The real challenge?
Learning to trust that.
If you haven’t listened to this episode yet, I highly recommend it. And if you have, tell
me, what resonated with you the most? For more on personal growth and self-acceptance, you might also enjoy these related reads: Solitude: 5 Ways to Spend (and Enjoy!) Time with Yourself and The Power of Being YOU! And if you want to dive into another empowering conversation, listen to Millie Bobby Brown’s latest episode on Call Her Daddy. Plus, if you’re looking for a journal to help you bring out the gratitude, kindness, mindfulness, serenity and happiness in your life, this one is a great place to start.