By: Nicole Milliman
You heard it here first. Hot Girl Summer is out, and Self Love Summer is in!!! Every year it seems that social media romanticizes the idea of hot girl summer - telling girls to go out, live their best life, and be unapologetically themselves. But every once in a while, the mask of hot girl summer can stop us from being intentional with our decisions. If you are looking to lean into self-care this summer – here are some tips for you.
Don’t Worry About Anyone Else (boys)
Being a teenage girl during summer can be stressful in so many ways, including the pressure surrounding boys/relationships. During summer, I feel like there is sometimes extra pressure to have a roster or get into a relationship, but realistically that isn’t the priority for everyone! If you are single this summer, I’m here to say that you do not need to think about boys to have a fun summer. In my opinion, there is literally nothing wrong with being single, especially during summer. With lots of extra free time, you have so many opportunities to get to know yourself. Don’t compare yourself to anyone else, because everyone is on such a unique and individual journey. If your friends are in relationships and you are struggling with being single, here’s a piece of advice that has helped me so much!!! “Don’t compare, because your chapter 1 could be someone else’s chapter 20.” With summer approaching, don’t feel like you have to “catch up” top anyone else. At the end of the day, the most important relationship you will ever have is the one with yourself. So use this summer to get comfortable being independent. The right person will come in time, but for now, focus on what you can control!
Prioritize The Things that Make you Happy
This summer, I encourage you to get intentional with how you spend your time. I find that sometimes summer calls for an increase in nights out. While there is so much fun to be had during a night out, sometimes you might actually be longing for time spent doing more wholesome activities. Sometimes I feel like a grandma because my ideal night out includes a fun dinner with friends, a sweet treat, and being in bed by 10. No matter what your ideal night looks like, remember to always respect yourself and make decisions that your future self will thank you for. If you are feeling like you want to spend more nights in this summer, know that there is no need for FOMO. The night out will always be there as an option, so for now lean into the habits and lifestyle that feels most authentic to you.
Surround Yourself With Positive People
We all know the quote “You are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with.” This summer is the perfect time to think about who you are surrounding yourself with. Ask yourself if you and these people have shared values, and think about how you feel after hanging out with them. Are you uplifted and energized, or are you irritated and making choices that don’t align with your heart? If your friends are influencing you to do things that don’t lift you up or bring light into your life, this summer is the perfect time to change that. Expand your circle and talk to people you normally wouldn’t. Friendship is such a gift, and there are so many beautiful, kind, and amazing girls out there who would be such great people to spend your summer with.
Embracing a self-love summer isn't just about indulging in leisurely activities or pampering ourselves—it's about recognizing our worth, embracing our unique qualities, and prioritizing our happiness and well-being! As we navigate the challenges and pressures that sometimes come with summertime, let's remember to be kind to ourselves, lean into intention, and live every day to the fullest!
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